How Often Do We Walk Around With Our Head In The Clouds?
Blissfully unaware of how much we impact the world around us. Our kids, our friends, our spouses, our colleagues, bosses, employees and employers.
There are so many people we have an effect on every single day.
We bring our entire selves wherever we go, our stress and anger, our positive attitude or our negative one, our biases and preconceived notions of right and wrong. Our domineering personalities or our submissive ones, our contributions or lack there of.
Do you think about your effect on the people around you? Have you tried to become emotionally aware of who you are and how you react to incoming triggers? Have you read the classic book Emotional Intelligence 2.0?
Are You Accountable?
What kind of person are you? Do you do what you say you will do — and if you can’t do you explain why?
Accountability is often lacking in the workplace and it starts at the top. Executives expect accountability, but they are often not accountable. The deflection technique is still a mainstay, pointing fingers at every department but your own, always creating a moving target.
Every company needs professional development programs, leadership programs, executive coaching and 360 evaluations.
I ask all of these questions reflectively.
Understanding oneself is a difficult journey, one that I have been working on for several years. I am digging deep — trying to be a better spouse, a better parental figure, a better colleague, a better daughter, a better Aunt, a better leader.
So I try to be present, in the moment. I try to not react, think about what I say and do. I try to set boundaries and keep them. This is a hard one, most people absolutely detest boundaries. It’s scary and it hurts and people lash out and get nasty sometimes when a boundary or process is put in place that doesn’t suit them.
Ultimately, I don’t want to have any regrets and always be able to say I am doing the absolute best that I can. I don’t want to live in fear. As Elizabeth Gilbert said, I want to Eat, Pray and Love.